So, stop rushing things. Stop making it obvious you like him right from the start. Make the guy work for your affection. Let him want a relationship in the first place, and let him try to convince you to accept it instead.
Overall, let that man see your value. Let him prove his worth before getting to the commitment part. This way, not only will you get him to commit, but you’ll also have a lot more fun getting there.
2. You’re not the woman he thought you were.
Commitment can — and will — change many smart and beautiful people, but not always in a positive way.
At first, many people are fun and easygoing. However, once they become familiar with their partners, they can turn into different people. They completely change from who they were in the beginning of the relationship.
Now, if the guy you’re seeing is truly in love with you, there’s a chance any adjustment period will be just that: a period. Still, if your boyfriend isn’t blinded by love, he will notice this major shift.
He won’t like it. Naturally, he wants to be with the fun and easygoing person he approached and thought you were. He’ll definitely not settle for the person whose demeanor has completely changed, and you’ll be the one whose pushing him away.
Try to not let your daily life and work stress affect your relationship too much. Though it may sometimes seem hard, this is the right attitude to adopt.
3. You’re becoming too attached.
Every woman and man wants an independent and strong partner. It is much more comfortable for both genders. You need a relationship in which you know you can count on the other person.
Men want to feel needed, but they don’t want to feel used or exploited. The best way to stay independent is to have your own life, support yourself, have your own friends and hobbies and altogether preserve your individuality.
In the end, being the “significant other” doesn’t mean giving up on yourself. Rather, enhance who you are to become a better version of yourself as both a person and a partner. Only when you improve as a person can you start improving as a partner.
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